Assassins of Self Esteem
Posted in Uncategorized on January 21st, 2010 by admin
Can a failure to remodel actually cause psychological damage? Can it affect unborn children or lead to early senility? Can it alter our view of the world and of ourselves? Yes, deep questions. The type of questions that lead us to ponder the very origins of the universe. Questions that lead us on a journey, a journey feeble minds should not take, to a place where the very essence of unanswerable questions doth live – who came first, the chicken or the egg? But I stray from point at hand. Simply put, does that space in your home, that space you know should have been retired years ago, cause you harm?
Although I am pretty sure there haven’t been any Harvard studies on the subject, I think a case can be made. Let’s set the stage. Imagine you have a bath with a pink tub, blue wall tile, and a painted white vanity that has a missing door. Or it could be your kitchen with Formica counter tops that are delaminating and dark oak cabinets seen only in 1982 issues of Better Homes and Gardens. For both our sakes, let’s pray you are just imagining this. Now close your eyes (or for the unfortunate, open them) and picture yourself standing in one of these places.
On the most basic level, just being amongst these relics of bad design and by-gone misplaced taste creates a certain level of stress. Maybe you feel stress because your in-laws are visiting next week and they will brand you a loser. Or you feel stress because you promised your wife the kitchen would be done… six years ago. Or, it might just be that unidentified gnawing feeling in your gut that tells you there must be something better. Regardless of the source, stress can kill. And if it doesn’t kill, it can certainly cause bad diarrhea, or worse yet, gastro esophageal reflux disease. Ugly spaces cause stress – a fact, plain and simple. Stress is something you don’t need.
Take it up a notch. Those same ugly spaces play havoc with your self esteem. A stove and refrigerator placed side by side or a shower stall so small you’d be better off bathing in the kitchen sink are not merely billboards of bad design. They are assassins of self esteem, eating away at the very core of your self worth. In my humble opinion, ugly spaces might as well be radioactive – for they surely cause long term damage to your mental health. You wouldn’t keep nuclear waste in your silverware drawer, would you? Then why would you live with that gross bathroom?
Of course, we’re talking figuratively, not specifically about any particular room in your home. It could be a neighbor or a family member or a close friend’s bungalow. Regardless of where the injustice is taking place, you can now count yourself among the informed. Yes, you my friend are now up to speed on this little known, yet dangerous threat to the health of all Americans (and you thought french fries were bad). So, the next time you feel a little high strung, look around. It could be the ghost of 1982.
Mark Lewis
ProCraft Contracting, Inc.

Americans spent over 43 billion dollars on their pets in 2008. I know, I thought the same thing – damn, that’s a lot of dog biscuits! I hate to admit it, but is seems like my wife and I spent about 10% of that number just on our two dogs. What you have to understand, it’s not just dog biscuits. Consider special, gluten free dog food, 55 gallon drums of gourmet dog treats, fluffy, cozy beds, countless chew toys, trips to the beauty parlor, visits to the vet, doggie day-care, first class boarding complete with sheep skin “sleepy time” mats, permits to the dog park, new fashionable collars, dog gates to keep them in or keep them out, more fluffy beds for the office, training, even more delicious treats, really long leashes ‘cause they don’t like really short leashes, Christmas presents (yes, wrapped), birthday presents, replacements for tore up fluffy beds (separation issues), little sweaters, doggie booties – OK, you get the idea. And you understand how 43 billion can come and go pretty quick.
If I’ve heard it once, I’ve heard it 17 ¾ times. You’ve thought about it too. “What’s the return on my remodeling investment going to be after my kitchen or basement or bath is done?” In other words, how much damn money will I get back when I sell this dump if it has a spiffy new kitchen or a spa-luscious master bath? On the surface, that seems like a really great question. A really smart, insightful question. A responsible question. But, the answer you are hoping will enlighten you, the answer that will quiet your fears, the answer that will make you appear intelligent to your friends just may do the opposite. It may render you a fearful idiot stumbling in the dark. Really. And here’s why…


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